Published Aug 25, 2009 by
Lauren in
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If you discovered your significant other spent 4 days a month as a member of the opposite sex, how would you react?
I’m giving away three of these babies, so put your thinking caps on.
I’d be awfully surprised, but I’d ask them what pronouns to use during that time of the month, and then life would go back to normal. I’m also thinking about a friend of mine who was born intersex, and has lived as male and as female, both during adulthood, and I’m wondering to myself: “Would they notice a change? What exactly would it mean for them to be the ‘opposite’ sex?”
I think, initially, I’d be a little freaked out. But once that wore off, I’d be very curious and proably ask lots of questions, such as what it feels like and how it started. I don’t think it would make me love them any less, becaue, male or female doesn’t matter… it’s the person you fall in love with.
I would check and see what they were comfortable with. Are they at peace in their skin 4 days a month? Would they want my company? If so, I think we’d take it slow. Spend time together, and take it from there. If they wanted to maintain a physical and sexual relationship during that time, I would test my comfort level, although I think it would be a possibility. Basically, it hinges on whether they were comfortable in that skin, and whether those 4 days a month, they still wanted to feel like they were in a relationship with me. If so, then that’s how it would be. I would hope.
I would be startled that they’d never mentioned it before, and that they’d managed to conceal the fact through 2 pregnancies. I would know that it was incredibly difficult for them to share this fact, and be honoured that they finally did.
I would guess they were worried that I might be bi-curious.
or: “duuuuuuuuuuuude.”
Pray that those 4 days fall on a days when (s)he’s not PMS-ing!
Ever since I’ve read Cycler I’ve pondered that question and I suppose I would at first be a little apprehensive; but isn’t this a true test of what love really is about? Loving a person for who they are and the ability to find a connection with a person that transcends gender? I mean a greater question is how would my significant other react to being a member of the opposite sex, would it be a Jack and Jill situation and one side be unaware of the others actions and the other have access to the others memories? Because if that was the case I imagine I would have to be tolerant of that other persona depending on how different it was from my significant other. If they just changed physically I think it would be an interesting experience, let them see how the other half live and interact differently in certain situations. After reading what I just wrote I see myself finding it so intriguing in a social sense as well as psychological sense, but I mean my main concern would being there for them, trying to be there for them and accepting them for who they are.