I’m going to assume you’re both frech and french. It’s much more interesting that way.

I mean I’m french

Accepting the reality of a pinball existence seems like a nice way to go, if you can do it, but then again, is it really the right thing to do? I don’t know if you’re acquainted with THE SECRET, this sort of new-age, law-of-attraction philosophy that’s been popular lately, but one thing I read recently as a tip from THE SECRET is that “attachment” is detrimental to a person’s happiness because attachment implies fear of loss. THE SECRET would argue that “appreciation” would be a better substitute for “attachment” because it doesn’t imply that element of fear–we can appreciate things even while we accept their absence.

I don’t know how I feel about that theory, though. I do agree that “appreciation” is an overall less-negative feeling than “attachment”, but I’m not sure that the complete absence of negativity is what we should strive for. After all, while “there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so,” the very concepts of “good” and “bad” are only defined as opposites of each other. I mean, there is no such thing as “good” unless there is a “bad” to compare it to, right? So, in a way, removing all “bad” from our existence to leave only “good” behind sort of negates the whole concept of what is “good” in the first place.

So, thank you, THE SECRET, but I think I might enjoy my sense of attachment a bit too much right now to do away with it. I don’t care if it’s a negative feeling; I need some negativity in my life, to offset and heighten all the positivity.

So, yeah, I understand the pain that comes with your constantly missing people, but maybe, in some roundabout way, it’s good for you to feel it? (I think what I’m trying to do is offer some words of encouragement. ^^;)

I do think that our hyper-mobile, hyper-connected modern-day lives are probably less socially and emotionally valuable (and less preferable) than the good ol’ days of making friends across the street, knocking on doors to visit, and growing up attached to our communities and families, but, yeah…what am I to do about it? I’m a product of the new millennium: I love the internet, I often find texting easier than calling, and I’m not likely to build my career in any town anywhere near my family. I guess the best I can do now is cherish those good, close times I’ve lost and just keep trying to live the happiest, most productive life I’m able.

Ultimately, I just have faith that everything will always work out in the end.

Not sure about the bank account part! A bloated bottom…line…can do wonders for some people.